Wings... Flying High
Some
times her eyes appear blank, and lethargic too. It makes me guilty. She, more than a
friend to me, was not like that until she was thrown into an unwanted married
life.
I
have to use words like ‘unwanted’ or ‘unnecessary’ to describe her marriage.
Because
it was so...
She
had to be the victim of the conventional outlook of marriage; a girl has to be
married off in her twenties itself, about a decade ago. Everyone including
herself knew that the man she was going to marry was not at all of her
wavelength at any point.
Yet,
she had to.
She
had to because she was too naïve and loving to hurt her parents, relatives and
friends.
Her
parents, with their limited financial background, couldn’t ‘buy’ a man of her
aptitude or calibre. They were helpless indeed.
She,
an ardent lover of literature and writing, stood bewildered at the hard phases
of life. She began to know that life was not a beautiful love story she used to
read.
Her
story is not complete yet, as she is on the threshold of a divorce.
It’s
true, marriage and motherhood make a woman complete.
No
doubt about that.
But
is there any point in marrying off girls just for the sake of a conventional
unwritten rule or to complete a parental duty before they are prepared for a
married life?
I
think, no.
In
our society, by the time when girls step in their early twenties, the parents
begin to face questions about their marriage. No wonder, they become anxious about
daughters. Three things appear before them, higher education, job and marriage.
In most cases, marriage weighs more and parents go for it. They do not even
bother if their child is mature enough for a nuptial knot. But have to admit
one thing; there is a noticeable change in the attitude within the last decade.
Daughters
are precious; everyone knows.
But
at the same time, they are the weightless baggage for their parents.
Though
weightless, they have to be kept somewhere safely.
The
duty of parenthood…
It’s
despairing indeed, no one thinks about the sacrifice the girls are doing to
make their parents and society happy.
Let
them too have a role in their life, at least in deciding the right time for
their marriages. Be it at twenties...thirties…forties.
One
of my friends, in her mid thirties, is still unmarried. I couldn’t find any
shadows of regret in her eyes yet. She hasn’t told anyone the reason behind and
she seems to be happy with her life. When I met her recently, she told me that
her relatives are very suspicious about her. They might be burning their brain
thinking what could be the reason. She was laughing saying this.
I’m
not advocating that she is right or wrong. It’s her life, let her choose the
path.
Why
others are too bothered to find the reason behind her spinsterhood? It may be
the natural tendency of human beings to peep into others life.
It’s
merciless to cut off the beautiful wings of a butterfly before it starts to
fly.
Instead
of crushing the dreams, be proud to see it flying high.
High in
the air fluttering freely through the charming beauty of nature...
